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When men with sex addictions begin to acknowledge they have a problem, they sometimes worry that recovering from their addiction means living a life without sex. Understandably, this is an unpleasant – possibly terrifying – thought. The short answer is that sex addicts absolutely do not have to give up sex, but the long answer is a little more complex.

I frequently hear a variation of this question from couples (usually from husbands who cheated) early in the process of healing from...

A common struggle for my clients with addictions, alcoholism in particular, is trying to figure out if they need to give up alcohol...

When I begin therapy with a new client struggling with sex addiction, they often explain that the reason they act out (have repeated...

Medication can be a helpful addition to someone’s overall treatment plan

Over the last 25 years, I've worked with hundreds of couples suffering through and trying to heal from infidelity. Obviously, this is an...

As an addiction counselor, I’ve worked with sex addictions for over 20 years. One of the most common forms of sex addiction is porn...

I rarely read books about people's personal struggles with addiction.

I’ve been a drug and alcohol counselor for a long time, but this work still interests me.

In the last week, three of my online therapy clients have referenced the movie Groundhog Day describe life during COVID-19.

Even though we are healthy and financially stable – at least for now - our lives are a dark, closed-down version of what they once were.

Here’s the stuff I’ve found most helpful during COVID-19, though these are not necessarily in order of importance.

All of the uncomfortable and unpleasant facets of life during this pandemic contribute to addiction and relapse.

The argument for marijuana legalization is a valid one, but it often overlooks the fact that marijuana can be problematic for people.

Unfortunately, couples sometimes don’t come to marriage counseling until it’s too late.

Grief is one of the most difficult experiences we go through.

As a mental health counselor, clients often ask me – especially guys – if it’s really necessary to talk about their feelings.

Not everyone who cheats is a sex addict, and not all sex addicts are cheaters.

Sex addiction is a fairly new term and can be especially hard to wrap one’s head around.

Most men have misunderstandings about how to listen to their wives.

On the most general level, you have a drug or alcohol problem if it creates problems in your life.

I believe that everyone is different and that the path to sobriety isn’t the same for everyone.

We have seen more and more clients whose problems have been created by or made worse by the Internet.

One of the things nearly every couple who comes to marriage and couples counseling struggles with is communication.

It’s often difficult for people to remember what they learn or realize in therapy, even when these realizations feel important.

Nobody likes being uncomfortable, and we especially don’t like being psychologically uncomfortable.